Category archive: sex education

The holidays have arrived!

The holidays have arrived!

The warm yummmies that come with the holiday season are so many, unless they aren’t. I love the holidays, for many reasons. The most prominent for me is the realization that the days are going to start getting longer again and the warm spring is something to look forward to. For me, the celebrations of seasonal…

Let’s Talk About Sex….With Teenagers!

Let's Talk About Sex....With Teenagers!

Let’s Talk About Sex! Now, when most of us read those four words together our minds automatically start singing the Salt-N-Pepa song from the early 90’s. Hey, if that helps you think about sex then I say sing it loud and sing it proud!   What I’m talking about is Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten…

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Dear parents, You may have heard about my book, Breaking the Hush Factor, and this post is to give you some more information about the theoretical underpinnings that support the ten rules in the book. Recently, my friend and midwife Christy Tashjian and her wife Jenni Huntly interviewed me for her blog. What follows is a re-post…

Condom Week: “Are you using condoms?”

Condom Week: "Are you using condoms?"

I’ve decided that it’s Condom Week around here at Unhushed. Melissa White over at Lucky Bloke recently asked if I wanted to provide content for her new safer sex education website, and of course I was delighted! But when I went back to look through my blogging archives (both here and at www.karenrayne.com), I found that I had…

When’s the online class starting?

When's the online class starting?

I have people ask for an online sexuality class for middle school and high school students occasionally. I wish I had one to give them. But here’s the honest truth: Formal online education is still in its infancy. I’ve been teaching online at the college level for about five years now. This was an endeavor…

When we sexualize the young…

When we sexualize the young...

Parents: Your messages to your children about clothes, sexiness, etc, needs to be consistent across their childhoods. There’s not one (more permissive) message that’s right for babies and another (less permissive) message that’s right for preteens and teenagers. I took this picture at the local Walgreens this morning. I’m going to give all of you…

The dreaded sleepover question

The dreaded sleepover question

In a world with flexible gender and sexual identities, what’s a parent to do? I’ve been asked about sleepovers through two channels in the last few days, so it seemed the right time to finally write a post about it. This question comes up all the time – first in the wake of the sudden…

Why comprehensive sex ed? Here’s why.

Comprehensive sexuality education is not limited to reproductive or risk-management approaches. Nor is it a crazy free-for-all of sexual information. It is a considered, developmentally appropriate approach to adult-moderated peer conversations about issues of sex and sexuality. It is life changing in ways that are often unexpected and beautiful. I’ve recently had a few parents…

FYI (if you’re a parent to a teenager)

FYI (if you're a parent to a teenager)

Dear Parents, I have some information that might interest you. Your teenage sons have raging hormones – so do your teenage daughters. So, for that matter, do your trans* and queer teenagers. So let’s start this letter by leaving off the gender-specific nature of some of these conversations, shall we? Adolescence is tricky enough without…

A class for boys! (And other single-gender class thoughts)

A class for boys! (And other single-gender class thoughts)

I will be offering a class for middle school boys this summer. This is a fully comprehensive class – we will cover everything from reproduction and contraception to communication and decision making to abstinence and consent and more. I’m having a meeting for parents who are interested in their sons joining – or anyone interested…

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