Category archive: parenting

Talking Together: Get a Foot in the Door, Not a Door in the Face

As humans we communicate in many different ways and as technology changes our communication pathways will expand and become easier but complicated at the same time. What do I mean by that? With the rise of texting and social media it lessens the need for a key component to communication: speaking. Even though technology has…

I Don’t Know!

I Don't Know!

In their 2014 book, Think Like a Freak, Stephen Levitt and Stephen Dubner claimed that the three hardest words in the English Language to say are “I don’t know.” This isn’t the wildest claim to make. If knowledge is power, then admitting you don’t know something can seem akin to a pro wrestler climbing into…

The holidays have arrived!

The holidays have arrived!

The warm yummmies that come with the holiday season are so many, unless they aren’t. I love the holidays, for many reasons. The most prominent for me is the realization that the days are going to start getting longer again and the warm spring is something to look forward to. For me, the celebrations of seasonal…

Let’s Talk About Sex….With Teenagers!

Let's Talk About Sex....With Teenagers!

Let’s Talk About Sex! Now, when most of us read those four words together our minds automatically start singing the Salt-N-Pepa song from the early 90’s. Hey, if that helps you think about sex then I say sing it loud and sing it proud!   What I’m talking about is Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten…

Caring Before Sharing

Caring Before Sharing

In the spring of 2009, I was a junior in high school and cable news anchors were warning parents about the dangers of sexting. For me, this was just another tech threat that my parents didn’t need to worry about, though they probably still would.  The internet and I grew up together, with the first…

Sisyphean parenting

Sisyphean parenting

The iconic Zits comic strip, by Jerry Scott and Jim Borgman, recently depicted the act of parenting a teenager as similar to the apparent curse bestowed on Sisyphus, rolling the same boulder up a hill, over and over again only to have it roll back down again. This delights me, because I made a similar…

Breaking the Scare Factor

Breaking the Scare Factor

The blog posts written about adolescent sexual activity are overwhelming designed to scare, scare, scare parents. I can’t imagine any other reason why someone would write something as littered with misleading information and terror inducing generalizations as Growing Up Fast: Why 12-Year-Old Girls Are Having Sex Rougher, Earlier. Before I dive into the issues in the…

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Dear parents, You may have heard about my book, Breaking the Hush Factor, and this post is to give you some more information about the theoretical underpinnings that support the ten rules in the book. Recently, my friend and midwife Christy Tashjian and her wife Jenni Huntly interviewed me for her blog. What follows is a re-post…

Need a date night? I’ve got you covered!

Need a date night? I've got you covered!

You asked for it. I’m delivering it. Parents have asked me for some time to have a sex ed class for adults. But that never sat quite right with me. Parents need something special. Something unique. Something that recognizes that their time away from their children is unusual and should be both fun AND educational. (And…

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

This ad has been circulating recently, and many people are highly amused. There are are also many outraged people. I get both sides on this one, because I think there’s both really good and really bad here. So let’s watch and then break it down a little bit: The good: A girl who’s excited to…

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