Category archive: adolescent sexuality

Breaking the Scare Factor

Breaking the Scare Factor

The blog posts written about adolescent sexual activity are overwhelming designed to scare, scare, scare parents. I can’t imagine any other reason why someone would write something as littered with misleading information and terror inducing generalizations as Growing Up Fast: Why 12-Year-Old Girls Are Having Sex Rougher, Earlier. Before I dive into the issues in the…

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

This ad has been circulating recently, and many people are highly amused. There are are also many outraged people. I get both sides on this one, because I think there’s both really good and really bad here. So let’s watch and then break it down a little bit: The good: A girl who’s excited to…

Condom Week: Today’s debate: Providing condoms for your teens…?

Condom Week: Today's debate: Providing condoms for your teens...?

No side: BUT THEN THEY’LL HAVE SEX! Yes side: But if they want to, they’ll have sex anyway. I do an experiment with my classes every now and then, for fun. I ask them through an anonymous question and answer system whether they plan to have sex later in the day or that night. Because…

Condom Week: Condom time? Hooray!

Condom Week: Condom time? Hooray!

Condoms can be hilarious. I mean, really, really funny and fun. Starting with condom commercials (and I’m particularly fond of the international ones…)   To all of the just absurd things that people film themselves doing with condoms and then upload to YouTube: Young people are able to identify with condoms more fully – to…

Condom Week: Who can talk about it?

Condom Week: Who can talk about it?

Who has the right to talk with your child about sexuality? What about your teenager? Or your adult child? These are questions parents often start to grapple with far earlier than they realized that they would have to. A parent came to me once, very distraught, because her eight-year-old daughter and told another eight-year-old girl…

Condom Week: “Are you using condoms?”

Condom Week: "Are you using condoms?"

I’ve decided that it’s Condom Week around here at Unhushed. Melissa White over at Lucky Bloke recently asked if I wanted to provide content for her new safer sex education website, and of course I was delighted! But when I went back to look through my blogging archives (both here and at www.karenrayne.com), I found that I had…

Condom Week: Wherefore condoms?

Condom Week: Wherefore condoms?

I’ve decided that it’s Condom Week around here at Unhushed. Melissa White over at Lucky Bloke recently asked if I wanted to provide content for her new safer sex education website, and of course I was delighted! But when I went back to look through my blogging archives (both here and at www.karenrayne.com), I found…

What are they doing now?

What are they doing now?

One of the various issues with the Disney Princess line – and, in fact, with many stories and movies and television shows for children – is that they reach this point of “and then they all lived Happily Ever After!” It’s such a nice and tidy ending. It’s so dramatically unrealistic. Real life is messy,…

When’s the online class starting?

When's the online class starting?

I have people ask for an online sexuality class for middle school and high school students occasionally. I wish I had one to give them. But here’s the honest truth: Formal online education is still in its infancy. I’ve been teaching online at the college level for about five years now. This was an endeavor…

The dreaded sleepover question

The dreaded sleepover question

In a world with flexible gender and sexual identities, what’s a parent to do? I’ve been asked about sleepovers through two channels in the last few days, so it seemed the right time to finally write a post about it. This question comes up all the time – first in the wake of the sudden…

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