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Breaking the Scare Factor

Breaking the Scare Factor

The blog posts written about adolescent sexual activity are overwhelming designed to scare, scare, scare parents. I can’t imagine any other reason why someone would write something as littered with misleading information and terror inducing generalizations as Growing Up Fast: Why 12-Year-Old Girls Are Having Sex Rougher, Earlier. Before I dive into the issues in the…

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Dear parents, You may have heard about my book, Breaking the Hush Factor, and this post is to give you some more information about the theoretical underpinnings that support the ten rules in the book. Recently, my friend and midwife Christy Tashjian and her wife Jenni Huntly interviewed me for her blog. What follows is a re-post…

New Unhushed classes are starting soon!

New Unhushed classes are starting soon!

It’s mid-August and the first days of school are looming! I’ve had an amazing summer, including a month long stay in Germany and the Netherlands. I used part of my time away to read about race, gender, and social media, which has left me excited and ready to dive back into teaching classes. Recent events here…

Need a date night? I’ve got you covered!

Need a date night? I've got you covered!

You asked for it. I’m delivering it. Parents have asked me for some time to have a sex ed class for adults. But that never sat quite right with me. Parents need something special. Something unique. Something that recognizes that their time away from their children is unusual and should be both fun AND educational. (And…

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

This ad has been circulating recently, and many people are highly amused. There are are also many outraged people. I get both sides on this one, because I think there’s both really good and really bad here. So let’s watch and then break it down a little bit: The good: A girl who’s excited to…

Condom Week: Today’s debate: Providing condoms for your teens…?

Condom Week: Today's debate: Providing condoms for your teens...?

No side: BUT THEN THEY’LL HAVE SEX! Yes side: But if they want to, they’ll have sex anyway. I do an experiment with my classes every now and then, for fun. I ask them through an anonymous question and answer system whether they plan to have sex later in the day or that night. Because…

Condom Week: Condom time? Hooray!

Condom Week: Condom time? Hooray!

Condoms can be hilarious. I mean, really, really funny and fun. Starting with condom commercials (and I’m particularly fond of the international ones…)   To all of the just absurd things that people film themselves doing with condoms and then upload to YouTube: Young people are able to identify with condoms more fully – to…

Condom Week: Who can talk about it?

Condom Week: Who can talk about it?

Who has the right to talk with your child about sexuality? What about your teenager? Or your adult child? These are questions parents often start to grapple with far earlier than they realized that they would have to. A parent came to me once, very distraught, because her eight-year-old daughter and told another eight-year-old girl…

Condom Week: “Are you using condoms?”

Condom Week: "Are you using condoms?"

I’ve decided that it’s Condom Week around here at Unhushed. Melissa White over at Lucky Bloke recently asked if I wanted to provide content for her new safer sex education website, and of course I was delighted! But when I went back to look through my blogging archives (both here and at www.karenrayne.com), I found that I had…

Condom Week: Wherefore condoms?

Condom Week: Wherefore condoms?

I’ve decided that it’s Condom Week around here at Unhushed. Melissa White over at Lucky Bloke recently asked if I wanted to provide content for her new safer sex education website, and of course I was delighted! But when I went back to look through my blogging archives (both here and at www.karenrayne.com), I found…

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