Author archive: Dr. Karen Rayne

Camping, Dancing, and Gender Roles

Camping, Dancing, and Gender Roles

This weekend I was at an annual camping/swing dancing/swimming event that is a favored April event in our household. Some 250 – 300 people show up and put on the greatest party and potluck you could imagine! This year there were two aspects of the event that stood out to me: 1.  Swing dancing is a…

The holidays have arrived!

The holidays have arrived!

The warm yummmies that come with the holiday season are so many, unless they aren’t. I love the holidays, for many reasons. The most prominent for me is the realization that the days are going to start getting longer again and the warm spring is something to look forward to. For me, the celebrations of seasonal…

Breaking the Hush Factor on the radio and in the library!

Breaking the Hush Factor on the radio and in the library!

I couldn’t be more thrilled that Breaking the Hush Factor is getting onto the radio and into libraries! Here’s the radio interview I had with Katie Vitale from Issues for Your Tissues last week: Getting a book onto the shelves of a library involves the love, dedication, and thoughtful attention of a special breed of librarians…

Sisyphean parenting

Sisyphean parenting

The iconic Zits comic strip, by Jerry Scott and Jim Borgman, recently depicted the act of parenting a teenager as similar to the apparent curse bestowed on Sisyphus, rolling the same boulder up a hill, over and over again only to have it roll back down again. This delights me, because I made a similar…

Breaking the Scare Factor

Breaking the Scare Factor

The blog posts written about adolescent sexual activity are overwhelming designed to scare, scare, scare parents. I can’t imagine any other reason why someone would write something as littered with misleading information and terror inducing generalizations as Growing Up Fast: Why 12-Year-Old Girls Are Having Sex Rougher, Earlier. Before I dive into the issues in the…

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex

Dear parents, You may have heard about my book, Breaking the Hush Factor, and this post is to give you some more information about the theoretical underpinnings that support the ten rules in the book. Recently, my friend and midwife Christy Tashjian and her wife Jenni Huntly interviewed me for her blog. What follows is a re-post…

New Unhushed classes are starting soon!

New Unhushed classes are starting soon!

It’s mid-August and the first days of school are looming! I’ve had an amazing summer, including a month long stay in Germany and the Netherlands. I used part of my time away to read about race, gender, and social media, which has left me excited and ready to dive back into teaching classes. Recent events here…

Need a date night? I’ve got you covered!

Need a date night? I've got you covered!

You asked for it. I’m delivering it. Parents have asked me for some time to have a sex ed class for adults. But that never sat quite right with me. Parents need something special. Something unique. Something that recognizes that their time away from their children is unusual and should be both fun AND educational. (And…

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

First Moon Parties, humiliation, and humor

This ad has been circulating recently, and many people are highly amused. There are are also many outraged people. I get both sides on this one, because I think there’s both really good and really bad here. So let’s watch and then break it down a little bit: The good: A girl who’s excited to…

Condom Week: Today’s debate: Providing condoms for your teens…?

Condom Week: Today's debate: Providing condoms for your teens...?

No side: BUT THEN THEY’LL HAVE SEX! Yes side: But if they want to, they’ll have sex anyway. I do an experiment with my classes every now and then, for fun. I ask them through an anonymous question and answer system whether they plan to have sex later in the day or that night. Because…

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